Would this upset you

My mom lives over an hour away. Between the cost of gas and time it isn't an easy drive with a one year old and 3 year old. I work and so does my husband out of the home between us 80 hours a week. We also have no childcare or help we rotate whose home and have no one to help us or can't afford help.

Two weeks ago I planned to see my disabled mom and spend the whole Sunday with her after her husband has a chello recital. So I drove a half an hour to their church. Went to the recital. Then drove to their home that was an hour away. After I get there my mom told me her husband wanted to go celebrate him and go get drinks and didn't want me or my kids there. I was really upset. My toddler newly potty trained had to use their bathroom.

Her husband kept saying oh so glad we to see you, see you next time, and to come out before the snow to use the toys. I told him I don't have another free weekend till October and I work during the week. My mom had tears in her eyes.

My toddler is now screaming that he wanted to see grandma as I'm putting him back into my truck. My mom then asked me to come over during the week. I told her I can't as I have work. That I took off a Thursday 3 weeks ago so she could see the kids but I can't do that all the time. That I was sorry today didn't work.

I'm really upset. I don't get to see her often maybe 6 times a year. That they moved so far away she is in a wheelchair I can't afford a ramp for the size and weight of her chair (they are quite expensive for the weight and length we need.) I'm just so sad as I wanted to spend quality time with my mom. It was planned and talked about. I am mad for the three hours I've spent on the road. I'm mad for supporting him at the church.