My dad wants me to be a single mom LONG post

For context I’m 20 my husband is 22 and we’re having a baby in early October. My husband works in the tech field so we’re limited on where we can live and California became too expensive. My dad who’s been in and out of my life for many reasons guilted me SUPER hard into staying in California and having my husband and I live with him and his wife up in Northern California. My husband didn’t really want to move in with them, understandably but agreed that it could give us a chance to save money to buy something in Cleveland. We made the drive up with all of our stuff June 9th and 3 days later had to drive back to Southern California because his grandma was passing away very suddenly. When we came back on June 16th my dad had completely switched personalities. He became really mean to me about everything especially my husband.

He kept calling me a failure for not being able to work (I got put on bed rest at 14 weeks and was told to take is super easy) and calling my husband lazy and fat (my husband works 50+ hours a week and my dad has been unemployed since 2020). He wouldn’t say these things to my husband but made so many comments to me about how I’d be “better off” single, I should leave my husband, my husband is a loser, he “treats me too good so he must be cheating” etc. I ignored the comments and started talking to my husband about moving out ASAP because I couldn’t deal with it.

The last straw was when my dad took me to breakfast after my ultrasound and told me that I needed to kick out my husband if I wanted to stay in his house and that he “hated” being around my husband. I couldn’t understand why he disliked him so much so I asked because maybe there was an incident I didn’t know about. His reasoning was that he treats me like a princess and that he should treat me like a wife, my husband’s haircut is ugly and that he sits like a “faggot”, he’s lazy and broke and should enlist in the military so he’s never home. It didn’t make any sense. He kept saying that my husband is not meant to be a father and that I should leave him before it’s confusing for my son. He was like yelling these things in the restaurant and it was very overwhelming and just weird so I left before we even got to order our food. This happened on July 25th and I had my husband pick me up from the restaurant and we made the choice to stay with my aunt until we got an apartment in Cleveland. Of course my dad locked the house from the inside so we couldn’t get our things until I had to threaten to call the police to make him let us in.

He called and texted EVERYONE in our family, even people he hadn’t talked to in years to try to blame me for us leaving. He kept saying he never kicked ME out and that he just “wanted to scare me”. Of course no one in the family gave him the validation he wanted and he sent a whole essay to my husband blaming me for the situation and saying all he wanted was for my husband to “prove” that he was capable of being with me. He even texted my mom who hasn’t talked to him in like 10 years telling her he thinks my husband is lazy and that they should “work together” to talk sense into me. My mom LOVES my husband and respects him a lot.

To this day I’ve still been getting texts from family that my dad is obsessed with my husband and is trying to get our address, updates on my pregnancy, and if I’m unhappy with my husband and ready to leave him. It’s just weird and I feel so bad for my husband because all he did was give me the life I’ve always wanted and my dads just a creep.