Are My Friends Right?

Are My Friends Right?

hi! so for a while i've had this friend who would always come in with drama, talk shit, or complain about people behind their backs to me. over time i would just get bored or tired of it. we even tried out for a cheer team recently and she laughed at someone who messed up and told me that girl messed up. i responded, "you messed up too." and she responded with "you know, you're supposed to agree with me, make me feel better." but it's true, she did mess up too.

so recently i asked a friend for her advice on what i should do, she suggested to just ask why she does what she does. so, i asked her why she talks shit or complains about people behind their backs to me. in response, she gave a whole monologue of a backstory to me; it honestly felt like she was just storytelling. i brought up the fact she said she cares about people's feelings or the fact that what she does is considered rude, considering she always said she grew up to be polite and even said "i don't want to be rude" or "i was overexaggerating" when i called her out on talking shit about me, which i found out happened 3 times. in turn, she said she doesn't care about everyone's feelings, just her close friends.

after that entire conversation i decided to just not talk to her for a few days, and to be completely honest, i felt tons better over time. this lasted for about 5 days until she said "Congrats." in a group chat with me, her and another person, because she and i both passed tryouts and were officially part of the cheer team; me as a "true flyer", her as a flyer and tumbler. i said thank you, same to you. it started out awkward but over time during that conversation, it felt like she was getting snippy with me and giving me backhanded comments. i eventually had enough and told her to tell me she doesn't like me and has a problem with me and to get it over with; she said "you could say that".

we eventually had an argument and i bluntly told her, "i'm tired of the fucking drama. i'm tired of the drama, tea, whatever you want to call it. and to be completely honest with you, i'm tired of you complaining about people and talking shit about people behind their back. i'm sick of it." she responded with "fine, i won't tell you anymore." i respond with "THANK you." a few minutes pass, she said "i should go" and just left the group chat, so i deleted the group chat because it was pointless having a group dm with just 2 people, and she changed her About Me on discord to "Goodbye, (her name)."

i asked my friends on their opinions and all i had as a response was that she's an attention seeker, drama queen, bitch, toxic, manipulative, you name it. are my friends right? what do i do?