Is this normal?

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Husband was not rude about this AT ALL. 
Husband came to me this morning and expressed that last night, and lately he can’t tell if he is inside of me or not during sex.. like he literally can’t feel it. He said the only reason he knew was because i was moaning so he kept going. He actually didn’t even finish last night but I didn’t really question it. I just thought maybe it was an off night. But I’m wondering if this if Normal? I’ve never been with someone else, I don’t use toys, idk how I could be bigger or wider overnight? He wasn’t rude he was just being honest. Any insight? I want him to be able to feel me! Does that mean he’s really small? Or what’s going on 😭😭

Accepted Answer

When you're very aroused the vagina relaxes and becomes very lubricated. Nothing causes the vagina to become wider. You can work on kegel exorcises and do them during sex.

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So before he could but now he can't? Honestly if it continues I'd recommend he talk to a doctor. Because that could be a sign of some neurologic issue if the sensations he feels are changing 🤷

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If you are really wet and he loses that friction he won’t be able to feel as much, that doesn’t mean anything is wrong. It’s a good thing he came to you and told you about this instead of keeping it to himself so you guys can figure this out. If his dick was so small/skinny that he couldn’t feel you, you wouldn’t be feeling much of anything either so it’s probably not that. If this is new for him and you guys haven’t done anything differently he could speak with a doctor to make sure there’s nothing more going on.

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Blame him. He’s itty bitty lol

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If this is new, i would want my husband to go to a doctor about it. I understand depending on how arroused you are sometimes it can feel different but I don’t think he shouldn’t feel anything at all. Even when we’ve been drinking and my body is completely relaxed, i can always feel my husband and as far as I’m aware, never has issues feeling me.

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Does his penis have sensation with blowjobs or handjobs?
Theres a number of things that can cause this and one is a weak pelvic floor but that would typically reduce sensation for you as well.

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Hi I deal with medical queries a lot so:
Does he have sensation when engaging in other sexual activities? Such as oral, handjob etc
Does he have sensations when NOT aroused? As if when he is soft can he feel things touching him can he feel his clothes on him?
Any bladder concerns can he feel when he pees and can he feel when he needs to go pee? (Follow up question if he can't feel that has he had any issue with his neck/ back or wet himself?) 
Reason why I ask is because that numbness could be medical related I.e neurological and suggest other factors which should be looked at. Its not a comment on you because even if you was very wet he'd still have sensation

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Please ignore the people telling you you're husband is a jerk for bringing this up. He's not. If he is not experiencing any sensation during sex, there could be a medical issue going on. As someone else said, ask if he can feel it if you use your hand on him. If he can, then it's possible that you are extremely relaxed and lubricated, which, while absolutely great for you, may reduce the friction he feels. That doesn't make him a jerk, it just means the two of you will need to work together to figure out how to increase his pleasure. Maybe start doing kegels to strengthen your pelvic muscles. 
If he can't feel anything at all in any format, that's cause for concern and he should see a doctor.

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I’d like to think it’s normal. I mean sometimes my bf and I have sex and I can’t really feel anything sometimes and he is far from small.

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You may have just been really wet even if you don't feel the wetness doesn't mean it's not in there .. maybe you were ovulating that cause allot of cm usually

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