Future feels like shit. How'd you meet your partner/tips on dating anyone but a cisman

I am going to be getting out of a 10 year relationship because I found out this man has been lying to me about one of my deal-breakers the whole time (don't wanna get into it right now). I realized I was bi a little over a year ago which feels like a blessing now. Because I don't know if I can ever trust a cisman again.

I obviously need a lot of healing after that, but just to make me feel like the future isn't complete shit.... can you please either tell me how you met your partner or give me tips for finding/flirting with girls in the future. I was VERY deeply closeted for pretty much my whole life. I want to feel like there's hope for the future for this somewhat shy, bi, and ready to cry gal.