So we are currently dealing with our second miscarriage this year. I just had a D&C after having a natural miscarriage at home in April. After the first miscarriage we didn’t share this pregnancy yet as I kept getting this guy feeling to just wait until after my second ultrasound. This is when we found out I had a MMC and the baby had no heartbeat.

One of my best friends is currently pregnant with her first baby. I am over the moon excited for her and can’t wait for her and her husband to be able to bring their new baby home in December. But it’s hitting me real hard today. I want to ask for some space right now but don’t really know how as I also want to be there for her as she was for me with my first pregnancy. But emotionally I don’t know if I can right now.

If my April pregnancy had stuck we would of had the same due date (or been within a few days of each other). While I know she would want to be there to support me through this I feel guilty putting that on her when she should be enjoying these last few months of her pregnancy while getting ready for their new baby.

How do you approach dealing with friends or family who are pregnant when your going through a loss and need some space? I feel like such a bad friend when she was so supportive and involved in my pregnancy and I can’t be there to be the same for her.