How often do you and your partner have sex?

My bf says we don't have enough sex (we'll have sex like normally once a week ish)and I've started think of him as more of a friend or roommate than a bf/romantic partner!

After almost 10yrs and 3 children currently pregnant with our 4th, and being a stay at home mom, I don't have the energy or drive that I used too! We're almost 30, my friends agree that sex is different for women our sex drive changes as we get older and our hormones change not only with age but also throughout pregnancy and recovering after pregnancy and even longer if you breastfeed. I told him I'm still physically attracted to him I'm just not 19 anymore. My body's changed and at this point sex is part of the relationship but it's not my main focus! I'd rather put the kids to bed and watch an adult movie or something before we go try and have wild and crazy porn star sex.

He says that's his problem he wants to F*CK and all I'm interested in is LOVE MAKING. But again after almost a decade together wouldn't you think you would want to do more than F*CK. Like if we have a date night or have an adults only vacation yes we can get more creative with it and spice it up. But if it's just a normal regular night I'd rather relax or just be gentle and make love.... Am I wrong? Is he right does is sound like I've "neglected his needs". Should I always give him the spicy rough and dirty last for hrs porn star sex?