Go with the Flow?

Question

Has anyone just stopped obsessively tracking their cycle and let things happen naturally? Go with the flow? One of my friends was closely tracking for years but when she stopped doing so and stopped stressing over it, boom- she’s pregnant!
Has anyone else had this experience? 
I feel like monitoring so closely can be really stressful and I’m considering doing the opposite!

Answer

TTC is such a tough journey, not thinking about it is so much easier said than done when a baby is what you are longing for. For me it got to a point where my body was just playing mind games with me, I had a period in February, at this point I was so down with constant negative tests and getting AF, I stopped tracking with OPKs. Then when March came I never got a period, so I instantly thought I must be pregnant. I wasn’t, I had nothing but negative tests, random couple days of spotting but ended up having a 60+ day cycle. I was also taking a conception pill, but I stopped taking this as I thought this could have been another factor contributing to my weird cycle. April came, I had random spotting again and thought I could have been pregnant once again, negative tests, then got my period. What was weird is the day after the bleeding stopped I got multiple positive pregnancy tests, I don’t know why I tested, just something told me to. This was a full blown period so I was super concerned, but my GP could only offer advice at this point. I continued to get positive tests for 2 weeks, but I did eventually miscarry. My periods did go back to normal after this, May came but we didn’t try that month. When June came, I just decided to track my fertile week through the app and let my body tell me when I was ovulating, it definitely did. We were on holiday that week, so I was much more relaxed. I said to my partner ‘let’s pretend we’re on a honeymoon, people always get pregnant on their honeymoons’ 😂 2 weeks later I got my bfp and I’m now 18 almost 19 weeks pregnant! But I think my point is, it’s always easier to say don’t stress about it, relax etc. But it is always in the back of your mind. But I do think taking a step back from it all does help, our bodies do crazy things! I wish you luck and so much baby dust, hoping you get your bfp soon 🤞🏾✨✨

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Yes and no lol. You are never going to really be able to “not care” and “go with the flow” if you want a baby more than anything in the world (hehe, me). But you can set up some internal boundaries with yourself. I had a chemical pregnancy this past July. This was my second MC as the year prior I had a loss at 6w and it shook me so bad we stopped trying for a year. After my chemical in July, I was sad mentally and wanted to keep trying but on healthier terms as the past few months I had made getting pregnant my identity so if my period came I really struggled w self worth. We decided to try in august but more relaxed. Here’s what that looked like for me. 
-enjoying a single drink of alcohol in a social setting while ttc but not preg
-no obsessively tracking LH levels and just going by my fertile days for a month or two
-no monitoring what I eat with insane scrutiny, just eating overall healthy and enjoying food 
-drink 1 cup of coffee a day only
-I did take baby aspirin once a day per my doctors approval along w prenatals 
-(most important for me) NO OBSESSIVE TESTING and waiting to test til missed period. 
To my amazement, I did conceive in august and things have been going well since *knock on wood* but the anxiety doesn’t stop after you get preg, in fact, it gets way worse. So it is never too early to practice self care and self boundaries to redirect your thoughts and affirm your identity. It’s hard bc when ttc, we often want something so badly that we let it become our personality. We have to remember we were and are a whole human before ttc/pregnancy. Our self worth isn’t tied to ability to conceive/carry/etc. and we need to learn to enjoy the one life we have regardless of the situation.

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I was tracking for the last few months and it started taking a toll on me mentally disappointment month after month. This last cycle just when fertility treatment was going to start and I stoped focusing on tracking and symptoms and just let it be I got my BFP. Currently 6 weeks. Follow your mind and body and do what’s best for you. Baby dust to all.

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People always say this, but it’s hard to trick your mind into “not caring” like that! For me it’s not a switch I can turn off, but I’m so happy for people where this happens!

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meeee. tried for 16m after a miscarriage and just had given up. suddenly got pregnant.

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