Hi all ,

My husband and I have 2 living children ages 18 months and 3. Our first baby was sadly stillborn from a rare condition.

About two weeks ago , I learned that I’m expecting again despite being on nexplanon. It was not in our plans to have more children . I have very rough pregnancies with hyperemesis gravidarium throughout , and also am considered high risk because of past history .

On top of that , my brother is in the end stages of life with stage 4 brain cancer .

I understand that many people would feel so lucky to have a third child , but with the debilitating sickness , and being unable to properly care for my living children while feeling like this , I don’t know what to do .

I know we could provide for a third child , and things would probably be okay , but what if they’re not ….