What would y’all do? Mother in law

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Never in a MILLION years did I ever think I was going to have to deal with a selfish, greedy- condescending mother in law! 
She puts me down every chance she gets—— to my husband! Since there is a language barrier. She does act ‘nice’ around me and say “Hi (my name)” that’s all she ever says to me. 
My husband and I have three kids together. My husband is also a mommy’s boy. Which means, he takes her advice and criticism over mine. 
So for some apparent reason, she messaged my husband something along these lines, “I want you to be the only one that feeds your son please. I don’t trust anyone else” something like that. 
Like are you serious? 
I honestly WISH I can cut her out of our lives. She is extremely toxic but my husband doesn’t see it! The love he has in his eyes when he talks with her is super scary! 
He never stands up for me. I feel like he should’ve said something then and there. 
Our toddler is happy and fed. We have to change him every 30 mins or he soaks through his diaper. (Not dehydrated) and he poops like 1 or 2 times a day! 
I feel like she needs to worry about herself! 
This isn’t the first time she made me feel like crap! 
When we were staying with her, I was cooking and she kept trying to give my first son (at the time) a hot dog. I kept telling her, “no, thank you!” Literally three times she offered it! Then she offered him chips! I didn’t want him eating chips yet. He was like 10 months old! 
Then one day, when I was pregnant and sick (like sick-sick! Throwing up all day non stop sick) she had the nerve to message my husband, “you work for us (her & me 😳) and she has the nerve to not fold the clothes, leave them in the dryer sometimes, not make your plate” she was going on and on! 
About 7 months after he was born, somehow Facebook live got turned on when I was nursing him (my boobs were exposed) not sure how that happened but I was humiliated. It was on my husbands phone and he was next to me… maybe he did it?? My sis in law called me and I grabbed my husbands phone so quick! I was sobbing! 
My mother in law told everyone I did it on purpose that I’m a hoe! 
So much to the story but back to the beginning, what would y’all do if your mother in law tells your husband, “I want you to be the only one feeding your son” ?

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You have a husband problem more than a mil problem. You need to have an honest & open discussion with your husband about how his mom treats you. If he continues to not stick up for you, I’d personally leave.

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If it were my mother-in-law I'd tell her to mind her business, I grew and birthed the child and her opinion doesn't matter!

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Your need to have a chat with your husband about this. He needs to be standing up for you and not taking her side. My husband would not put up with this type of behavior.

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You need to tell your husband he either needs to get his head out of his mommy’s ass and support the woman he created a family with, or you’ll be giving him divorce papers. This is absolutely not okay and will likely never change.

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This is way over stepping boundaries.. he is ur son and I'm furious for u.. ur husband should be on ur side! The moment anyone calls me a hoe.. family or otherwise.. my husband would shoot that right down.. sadly ur MIL is getting worse by the looks of it.. either ur husband does something or u walk away.. u can't really respect ur spouse if they are too weak to stand up for u.

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my husband would not stand for that

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If my husband didn’t have the balls to stick up to his mom then I’d def be speaking my mind to her. Idc who you are. You are not going to disrespect me!

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Regardless if you say something, she won’t listen. My mil does interesting things we don’t like, and if my hubby or I address it, she “changes” for a day and goes back the way she is. Example, kissing our kids lips, sitting on her phone ignoring kids while babysitting. She will change for a day then go right back to it. I just limit contact when I can.

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My husband would lose his crap with his mother if she ever did or said anything like that to him about me 😬 I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. Maybe just gently talk to your husband and explain that you feel so hurt by her behavior and see if he will stand up to her. He obviously doesn’t believe any of what your MIL says to him about you, because he wouldn’t be with you or trust you with the kids if that were the case. What does he say/do in response to her when she says “don’t let anyone else feed him”?

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She would be told where to go and he would be removed from the situation until he learned to grow a backbone and stop supporting the disrespect. The silence on his behalf is shocking.

What would y’all do? Mother in law

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