Ok so I have been seeing this guy for over 18months, but only gotten serious in the last 6months. He is the nicest person I've ever met and no in my life has ever made me feel so content as much as he does. But there is a big BUT, he has a phobia of getting me pregnant so we get sexual however he never goes all the way. We never made it official and I think this is the reason to why I sometimes keep my distance. I am not seeing anyone else and despite not being official we are exclusive. We are both in our early 30s so it's not like we're teenagers! Do not know what to do. I've also gotten the IUD but he still wouldn't and the 2 times he's tried condoms he would not keep his erection. Not sure if it's the Condoms that does that to him or if it's mental stress.

I feel shallow in stop seeing him because of this but at the same time I don't think I can live my life like this and have sex only when he is ready for kids. I have tried to speak to him about this twice and haven't seen any improvements and feel like I will make it worse on him if I were to bring it up yet again, but I cannot keep ignoring it.

I would appreciate any advice or maybe someone who has been in a similar situation?