I’ve been dating a guy for a while. We started talking over a year ago but got serious a while back. He is nice and a very good provider. We get along pretty well and have fun together.

But. That’s about 50% of the time. The other 50% is him ignoring me. He gets too caught up in other things and just simply chooses not to contact me, but will talk to other people during that time. Some times, it’s days he’ll go with out talking to me or seeing me. Like absolutely no communication and then a few days will go by and then it’s back to the regular great time. Every time this happens I of course get really upset about it and he some how persuades me not to leave. I feel trapped. I’m clinically diagnosed with BDP, anxiety, and ptsd. I also have extreme abandonment issues due to previous life experiences. So when this happens I really let it get to me. I feel lonely, worthless, and not good enough when he ignores me. But again, when it’s going good it’s amazing.

I feel stuck because i really do love this guy. He’s everything I want and he makes me so happy. But he also makes me feel so small. Should I stay in a relationship where I’m putting my 100% when he’s putting 50%? We have so much together and when he’s with me, he stays at my house. I have basically his whole wardrobe here, he’s involved in my sons life (son from previous marriage), he helps pay some of my expenses, and we always have fun together. I’m just tired 😔