I feel like there are stigmas and stereotypes with lesbians always being friends with exes and I hate it. I don’t agree with it but most of my lgbtq friends are on the bandwagon of being friends with exes even in some cases where it was toxic.

Me and this girl have been seeing each other for almost 2 months now. She did tell me she was close to her exes family and said she goes over for dinner and talk to them. (Her ex doesn’t live in the state anymore) but I didn’t realize how close was close until recently. Christmas pictures with matching pjs, sleepovers, etc. I know she’s not extremely close with her own family and there was a period of time they weren’t accepting of her sexuality(which has changed a lot since) but she doesn’t feel that close with them and her exes family became one of her own.

I know as someone she’s not even dating it’s not my place to really tell her to choose. And if it’s not something I can deal with I should walk away. But I’m really struggling because I care about her a lot and want to be able to feel comfortable with it.

But when I brought it up it was then relayed to the exes family which made me even more upset.

We made plans to watch a movie in theaters and she went with the exes family to watch instead and didn’t even acknowledge the fact that she told me she’d see it with me.

I feel like I’m walking on eggshells here. Because anything I say comes off as not accepting. I love that she has people who are good to her I just don’t think there’s any boundaries.

Her ex is also moving back in town in a couple months and idk how to be okay with sleepovers at that point.

Any advice? It’s okay to be harsh I got thick skin 😭