I have vaginismus so I'm unsure if this is how things are supposed to go or not. To be able to orgasm from clitoral stimulation I have to tense my pelvic floor muscles, without tensing them i dont feel much if not anything. Obviously as part of my vaginismus 'recovery' per se I need to be able to relax my pelvic floor but how am I going to do that if I cant orgasm without tensing??