I don’t want to breastfeed!

For reasons I don’t feel like getting into.. I really really REALLY do not want to breastfeed. I think having a mom that isn’t panicking is more important but my OB is guilt tripping me terribly. Do any more bottle moms have any advice? I really would rather pump than anything but I know she’s going to make me feel bad about that too.

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Me

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Fed is best. Forget anyone who says differently.

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Chelsie • Dec 7, 2022
I agree with this 100%

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I’d tell her to mind her business, you didn’t ask, and she’s not your child’s pediatrician.

Ja

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Get a new OB that respects your wishes.

C

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This is the gods honest truth here. Directly nursing is a hundred times easier, less stressful, and less overwhelming than exclusively pumping. EP is the hardest feeding method there is. It’s sooo time consuming, have to pump a very strict schedule (every 2-3hrs around the clock), feed baby on top of all that, power pump at cluster feeding times to mimic baby, wash all bottles multiple times a day, wash pump parts, remember to change pump parts every month for effective pumping, making sure baby is pace fed, etc etc. i commend anyone who chooses to do it. I know you have your reasons but I wanted to tell you it’s not all rainbows and clouds with exclusively pumping. I had to supplement with my youngest daughter on top of nursing, all the pumping sent me into a serious stress period and my supply wasn’t there much. Her being in the hospital was just part of it also. I hated pumping. Had to do it while at work but I pushed through as that is what I wanted my kids to eat.

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C • Dec 8, 2022
I know it’s not always the case. I am simply saying the absolute TRUTH. To the OP. Not you. Which is what this app is about also. Truth and educating.

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T.M. • Dec 8, 2022
I'm glad that this worked for you, but it's not always the case. Our baby wouldn't latch, no matter what we tried. She's been exclusively bottle fed for most of her 7 months because she has no interest in breastfeeding. The best thing we as parents can do is help and support our fellow parents, not tell them their decision is wrong (so long as it doesn't hurt the child, of course).

ma

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Oh goshhhh!!! Do not feel bad about it! If it feels right for some reason when the time comes, by all means, have at it! But if you don’t want to (even if it’s for no good reason), don’t do it and don’t feel guilty. Formula is the bomb girl!😂 Do WHATEVER YOU WANT!💛💖💛

Am

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I’d get a new OB..one that respects your wishes if you are able to change. And honestly, you only see your OB maybe once after birth so I wouldn’t worry too much about it. The l&d nurses will respect your wishes. Just do what you feel is right & what you are comfortable with.

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OMG girl get a new OBGYN. If you want to pump, pump. You shouldn't be going to a doctor who tries to sway how you feed your child.I nursed until 5 months then became an exclusive pumper by the way. I pumped until my child was 2yrs and 4 months old. I had a very supportive doctor. If your doctor is trying to make you feel guilty they are not the doctor for you. There is nothing wrong with pumping.

Ma

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Then don’t? A fed baby is what’s best. People can mind their business. Breastfeeding is hard & it doesn’t work out for a lot of people. Do what you feel is best for you and baby

Sa

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First of all you should have FULL support in all your decisions from your OB. If you don’t, find a new one!!!!! When you go to your appointment just let hew know you’re sure of what you do & what you don’t want to do! The end. She shouldn’t be hounding you about personal choices!

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Sarai • Dec 8, 2022
There are such things as medical decisions. That should be respected. And as a medical professional there’s ways to make the patient feel supported, doesn’t mean they have to friends it’s called courtesy.

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Rachel • Dec 8, 2022
But the ob is her doctor, not get friend. They're there for medical advice.

Br

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From a breastfeeding mom, feed your baby however you want and causes you the least amount of stress! If your doctor is guilting you about how you should feed your baby then I would switch doctors. You should be supported in whatever you’re feeling and decisions you want to make, particularly by your medical providers.