My Miscarriage & others pregnancies

Hi ladies just venting want get some input on how y’all would feel about this I suffer from infertility and I had 2 miscarriages and an ectopic. I fell pregnant again recently in September 8 days after my birthday I found out I couldn’t believe it. I told my god mother and funny thing is something made her test she found out that night she was also pregnant. A week later my god brother and his girl fell pregnant, But I was high risk I did everything right then diagnosed with threatened abortion. Her comment was if u lose ur baby we can share mine I want you to be baby’s god mom. Sadly 😞 I ended up losing my baby on thanksgiving at 11 weeks. My heart is so heavy at this time but I’m staying strong for the rest of my family in my home.

Anyways

My god mother is now going on week 16 and tomorrow she is due to find out gender I was suppose be apart of everything. I was even gonna throw her a gender reveal and all. So now she tells me yesterday today is the apt to find out gender and this weekend she throwing a party I was so confused and like I mentioned everything we already planned and she doing all on her own. I was like just wow by it all. She said she was trying think of my feelings since I lost my little one she was keeping me out of all that had to do with her baby. At first I was sad then I was like I respect u respect and take my feelings into account but u could of talked to me. I thought it be best to keep busy. Idk but then I understand later yesterday when I went shopping came across some baby items I cried. A part me still wanted to buy it.! Uhhhh how would y’all handle this or what not