this will be long im sorry! (we’re all 25,26,27 besides parents)

background: my friend and his wife own a house and they’re parents and a mutual friend live here. i moved in around June due to mental health issues (i literally can’t move out) and im having alotttt of issues with the mutual friend and so is the rest of the house. he doesn’t clean, he makes messes everywhere he goes, leaves dishes, dirty clothes, water on the floor after the bathroom, complains about not having towels yet using the last clean ones etc. the list goes on. we’re all grown here and we clean up etc except for him. we have two showers in the house one in my friends room and one in the hallway. he stopped using the friends BR bc he didn’t want to clean up after himself after we had made lots of suggestions towards him and instead of cleaning he got petty and switched bathrooms. cool whatever. this happened weeks ago. let me add here real quick that i have extreme PTSD and i don’t like germs it’s a big trigger for me and the whole house is aware of this.

lately he’s been bringing girls here. one we knew (kinda) but on my behalf i think it’s just disrespectful to show up with company unannounced but i guess i’m just old fashioned idk. last night was my last straw with him. he makes misogynist jokes and he’s really really petty and i don’t like how he talks to me. every time we bump heads he’s gotta get loud rude and starts cussing when there’s no need for that at all. im a grown ass woman you can talk to me in a calm manner or not at all. i had just gotten home after a long day and my friend and his wife aren’t here. well im laying down and here my friends door open and then close and then open again. YALL he went into OUR shower with a girl we didn’t know!! never met. never introduced or anything. left water all up in the floor, clogged the toilet with SOOOOO much toilet paper it was flooded and left dirty towels everywhere. then they went to his room while her parents are in the living room for 20 minutes and then just leave. didn’t say shit to us but tried to get me to ride with him to take her home. im already mad/highly uncomfortable and said no. i immediately call my friends and tell them what’s going on.

later that night my friend addressed the toilet problem and he starts getting loud and i was like you don’t have to talk to her like that and if you would just stop let her finish she’s not accusing she’s just asking. well it was my turn and i told him it was just straight up nasty to be bringing strangers into our bathroom where we already have 3 ppl sharing a shower and it’s not right. idc what y’all do y’all are grown yknow? i don’t need to know details you have your own shower. he hasn’t used ours in weeks and the only reason why he did that was to bring that girl over bc he won’t clean his own bathroom so he starts yelling and talking down on me and cussing me out and it’s just pisses me off. he left and came back and apologized to my friends wife but just ignored me. didn’t even acknowledge and im not about to have someone cuss me out and then act like it’s fine. he doesn’t talk to anyone else in the house like this but me and im fkn sick of it!

i’ve already mentioned that he was seeing another girl and he was like yeah they’re going to meet and im going to introduce them bla bla bla and im sitting here thinking you’re using this one girl

and meeting another and having them meet but don’t have the decency to tell your roommates you’re bringing strangers in this house.. it’s just wrong.

it’s not my house im just the mutual roommate as well but i don’t live like this and i won’t. there’s no sense in a grown ass man acting like a kid who won’t help with toiletries, groceries, cleaning up after himself. after last night idc if we’re roommates i’ll be cordial but i just don’t see myself being friends with someone like this anymore. me and my friends wife spent an hr cleaning the bathroom and disinfecting it and ik ppl are gonna think that’s extreme but idc i don’t know this girl and i don’t want some stranger using our shampoo and then having sex in there and then leaving a giant fkn mess.. go to a hotel or your car or the girls house or whatever

so long story short AITA for not

wanting to be friends with this person anymore ? how do i get by being cordial i haven’t said anything to him or responded to his texts or anything.