Am I overreacting?

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My boyfriend of 2 years invited me to his family’s Christmas party. This party is a big deal in his family and they always have lots of games. Well my boyfriend’s mom told me that we were playi mg white elephant and that I should bring a really dumb gag gift. She kept emphasizing that the gift should be something funny and cheap. Well the party rolls around and it’s clear that the object of this game was to have really nice, serious gifts. She tricked me so I would embarrass myself. Am I overreacting?

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I’d be petty and be like “darn, you specifically told me something funny and cheap” and call out her shit.

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I’d call her out and say “well this isn’t funny because you told me it should be a gag gift” speak up!

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Does she not like you? Has she done stuff like this before? Why didn’t your boyfriend tell you what type of gift to buy? Maybe she wanted something funny in the mix.

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White elephant is supposed to be funny gifts tho?

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I’d probably ask her before assuming she was attempting to embarrass you. Unless, she’s done something along the same line in the past.

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It could have been a fluke. It's very common to do gag gifts for white elephant. But like me for example, even when people say to me get a gag or funny gift I still always get something I would like type of thing lol and most the time other people do too. So it could have been that's what others should have got but most of them got something else. I also feel like it's a lot easier to get something nice like a gift card for white elephant than a gag gift. Also white elephant is anonymous kinda so you don't have to claim your gag gift lol

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Hopefully she didn't do it on purpose, she probably said the same thing to everyone but then other people might not have taken it literally.. maybe it was just like a 'polite' comment she made such as 'what? This old thing (full roast dinner) just something I threw together!'.. like even if you had a game that ended up being full of beautiful, serious gifts as a traditional, telling people 'buy something reasonably expensive and nice ' just sounds a bit off and presumptuous if you see what I mean.. whereas 'bring something cheap and funny, no big deal' sounds more polite as a request.. But of course that only works if you know the unwritten rules and can read between the lines from past experience. So I agree that it could have been handled differently but unless she's done other things to you beforehand, I'd give the benefit of the doubt and not assume she was being malicious about it..

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the way I would be like "Well thats interesting considering you told me how important it was to bring a gag gift" in front of the whole family.

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That does sound a bit malicious

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Maybe you should just ask her. If my son’s partner had any issues with me I’d want them to come to me.

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