I cancelled my abortion , was it a dumb decision ?

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Well I was supposed to get an abortion today with the 300 my mother gave me but I ran out & kept the money… Ive been to the same clinic since I was 16 but something told me to not have it. I feel stupid , I already have 3 kids. Idk why I didn’t jus take the pill. My son is 6 months old today & I would have aborted this new baby but I didn’t. My family keeps talking about I have enough kids already. Im 31 and I have my own place haven’t lived with my mother in years. She very opinionated and always has a say so.
Granted she helped me but I didn’t ask her for any help she offered it wen I was telling her my situation. I jus recovered from having my last baby & here I am again pregnant.. I feel really shamed of myself , I still have the option to get the pill on Monday .. I’m just thinking on wat to do. I plan to leave the man I have my recent baby with .. but that shouldn’t stop me from having my baby.. I don’t know if I made a stupid or smart decision…
My parents know I didn’t go through with it and now saying I jipped them out their money but they don’t have proof regardless they offered it & I agreed to pay it back. I jus want them out my business considering they been supporting me to abort my kids since I was 16 wen I was threatened to be kicked out her home. I’m currently 10 weeks almost 9 weeks and three days now I have a little time

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Don’t let anyone make you feel ashamed, follow your heart !

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“Something told me not to have it.” God watching over that life forming in you. Trust that feeling.

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Follow your heart. Nobody's opinion matters. It's your decision and you got to be okay with that decision

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I have a large family and we are expecting again and this right here is why I haven’t told my dad even though I’m a 35 year old married woman. Not that relationship status matters my point is others will always feel they have a say in our lives. Follow what your heart tells you to do. Praying for you

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like others have said listen to your heart cause at the end of the day YOU have to live with whatever decision you make, not your mama or whoever else feels the need to comment on how many kids you have. If you have the ability to take care of your children and yourself F what anyone else has to say.

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Don’t feel ashamed or let anyone make you feel you have to terminate. It’s you and your baby. It’s your life not theirs. And you don’t need to stay with any man just because you’re pregnant. Being a single parent isn’t easy and if we’re being honest it sucks at times but it’s completely doable and plenty of us mama’s do it. So don’t let anyone make you feel ashamed for having a baby without being with the daddy either. You do what’s best for you and your children.

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I agree that you should listen to your heart and I can’t imagine how hard that decision would be. However, this may be an unpopular opinion, but I think saying they should “mind their business”seems like a bit harsh considering it seems that they help you with your children. Do you still live with them? If so, then it is also their business whether or not you have this child. They did let you borrow money for the abortion indicating you may not have the means to do so yourself. I promise this isn’t coming from a bad place. But from their perspective, I could see that if they bear burdens related to assisting you and your children, it could be hard on them as well. If I am completely wrong and they do not assist you financially, physically, and you do not live with them, then it absolutely should not matter your decision.

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Like everyone else said, trust your gut. I’m proud of you for cancelling the appointment and saving the baby’s life 💕

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Your choice. No one else’s. But question: what did you do with the money? Have you just not stopped by their house to give it back or did you spend it?

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I think you should go with your heart but also make a tough decision if necessary if the timing isn’t going to be good for anyone involved. Do you have support? Or a partner who can help share the load with you? You’ll always be able try again if you want another addition but under your timing and control. How do you think this will impact you, your kids, living situation and work? If you have long term solutions then you should be fine. But it feels like the thing for you in all of this is to not run from all the problems this can bring and make a grounded decision that’s best for everyone.

I cancelled my abortion , was it a dumb decision ?

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