So I have a work friend, where we go out from time to time. Recently we decided to do a day trip to Boston and get some lunch so this was all planned the day before. We work at the airport so I told her since she’s working and gets off at 12:30 that when she goes to work to bring her change of clothes with her, that way we could just check in and go. This morning at 6:30 I received a phone call with her and another friend of ours well mutual friend, asking if we could catch the 4:30pm flight to Boston because she wants to change. Now I’m pretty much sleep and just saying ok. They hung up the phone and now I couldn’t go back to sleep. Now I’m up early as hell for no reason and processing what just happened.

So here’s how I feel. Age is just number but I do feel that as you get older you see things differently. I’m older than these ladies by a few years not that much. But I say that to say I’ve been in situations before where I was a friend to someone and they would be jealous or envy of me hanging out with other people. I had to explain to them that is not how I get down. And you cannot invite yourself to plans that were already made. It’s just rude and inconvenient. I have to work the next day thus I have to be on the last flight from Boston to DC. With us now going at 4:30 that’s putting us behind schedule tremendously. It’s low key making me not want to go anymore and making me mad. Plus I to talk to my friend about something personal that I don’t discuss with other people. Yes the person who invited their self is cool and like them as a person. However I don’t know her well enough to tell her something personal and trust that she wouldn’t go around telling my business. So I’m left with not saying anything at all. Idk how to tell my friend in a less aggressive manner (due to me being upset and a uncomfortable position) to tell her this can’t be a consistent thing. Another thing that’s making me furious is that two-three days ago we invited her to go out but she was saying that she doesn’t have the money so count her out. Every time we invite her she doesn’t come but one time. Which you can’t count that because she still wasn’t invited they just happened to be traveling out of town and it made sense if we all went together before their flight. Ok I have to have the conversation but I need to calm down before having it.

What are y’all thoughts?