He’s driving me insane

I’ve been with this guy for 8 months. He isn’t clingy when we’re apart, but when we’re together, I’m not allowed a moment of personal space. I’m very affectionate with him and I’m always cuddling with him, but it’s never enough.

1. If I’m in the kitchen, he will come see what’s taking me so long even if I’m gone for 5 minutes.

2. If I’m in the bathroom, he will show up after about 5 minutes.

3. When we go out to dinner, his hands are ALWAYS rubbing my chin or my cheeks even though I beg him to stop so he doesn’t ruin my makeup.

4. We will both have napkins on our laps at the restaurant, and he will wipe his hands on my napkin instead of his. He actually dirtied my nice pants because he thought it was my napkin. When I tell him to use his own napkin, he gets frustrated.

5. He always gets upset when I don’t put food directly into his mouth at a restaurant or pick a cocktail for him off the menu.

6. I love spooning with him when we sleep, but he’s so much bigger than me so I wake up with awful neck and back pain because he will NOT budge even if I try to move him off of me after a while.

7. We were sitting on the couch watching TV, and he was all over me and I was way too hot, so I got up for a second.

This isn’t even half of the stuff that he does that drives me insane.

Don’t get me wrong, I am very attracted to him, and I love being around him, but I have found it all overwhelming lately because it’s obsessive. No matter how many times I bring these things up to him, he will just tell me I’m being distant and mean to him. I can’t even express that I don’t like something without him telling me I’m being mean. Then the same things repeat all the time. Is there a more effective way I should be communicating to him?