So ive been dating my boyfriend for 2 years. We get along great, very similar. Well we broke up once a year ago. That only lasted a month before he begged for me back. Dated more months, i moved in, things going great. Broke up again, this time for 3 months. And guess what. He begged for me back again. When we got back together the first time, i moved into his house, i have a toddler/ kid (not his child) he bought my sons furniture. Built a garden for me in the backyard did all that, then randomly and suddenly broke up. Well we got back together recently. Ive been on my shit, working out more, bought a new car, about to buy an apartment and get a second job for more $. He recently sat me down, apologized for everything and said he wants me and my son back here. That he loves us and would do anything for is. That Im his future wife and the only woman he sees having children with. He talked about how we can turn (my old sons room which he turned into an office) back into my sons room, with a bigger bed. And how i can decorate and we should try again because he loves me and all this. I want to believe him. I love him a lot, he loves me a lot. But hes wishy washy. And not in regular behavior, because hes consistent in every other day, but just in that hes quick to end things then comes back. How can you leave so many times. Is that love to you? He said he does this and none of his relationships have lasted over 2 years, that im the best girlfriend hes had. No one else has ever loved him so much. And hes never seen a future or kids with any of them except for me. He does have some therapy he should work on. Hes a great guy overall, humble, introverted yet charismatic and friendly. Hard worker.

I guess im wondering, why should i believe him this time? He wants me to save money and move in with him and build a life together. But like… he said this to me before and then when we broke up my world shattered. I dont want to give anyone control over me like that and i want stability.

Is it his avoidant personality? Is he scared of getting hurt? No cheating or anything occurred but he says he gets jealous sometimes because he said im very beautiful and he gets jealous when i get hit on, even when i dont entertain it. Maybe hes trying to leave me before he gets left? Even tho i told him im in this forever? I just dont know. I dont know if i should trust it. I dont even know what conversation needs to be had.

Were both over thinkers, were both skeptical people, we both have trust issues, which i have worked on tremendously so that i can better myself. Things are going good right now, we dont argue or yell, just rare debates that comes to a quick conclusion.

Trust me, if he was toxic id have left already. But im still with him today because of what he does for me, how he treats me on a daily basis, and just the deep love we have for each other. Not about sex but emotionally and intellectually

Is this something that can be salvaged? Or are we doomed for good?