I'm a SAHM, my husband works. I don't even remember the context at this point because it was a few weeks ago but I can't stop thinking about what my husband said to me. He said "I work all day long and you don't help me at my job. I help you with what you call a job and anyone can do it." First of all, he doesn't help. I do cleaning, cooking, shopping. Basically all childcare. I home teach preschool to our daughter. I take care of our home, appointments for the whole family. I take care of our two dogs and cat. I do all laundry. I take the trash out. I do home repairs when I can because he doesn't. I'm not sure what he helps with at home, but he was nasty about it.

I'm so hurt by that statement. I told him the things I do at home help him be able to do his job and he told me to "get off my high horse." I just went in the other room and cried. We never resolved it. He is bad at communicating. He refuses couples therapy.

I feel so unappreciated. I work so hard and I feel so utterly replaceable and useless. That's all. I just feel bad about it. I keep thinking about it when I work hard for my family and think how it doesn't seem to matter to my husband.

Edit: I don't remember specifically why he said this but I didn't ask him to come home and do more work. I don't ask him to do stuff other than clean up after himself because even if I ask him to help me carry a load of folded laundry to the bedroom he gets very mad at me. He trashes the house. He literally leaves trash on the floors and counters. I tell him I appreciate him for supporting our family all the time. Also, it was his idea for me to be a SAHM.