I dont know if I’m the one in the wrong here.

I’ve just gone through a miscarriage and its completely broken me. We went to our 12 week scan to find that the baby had passed away at 9 weeks. I had to have a D&C to have the baby removed as my body hadnt passed it naturally.

My boyfriend (we live together and have a 1 year old together), was there for me at the hospital and through the surgery.

When we got home from hospital that day, literally hours later he went out and left me to go and play football with his mates.

The next morning, he left me to go to the gym for 2 hours. He then left to go and get his hair cut.

He was meant to stay with me for 48 hours incase of any complications, but mostly I just needed him there to be there for me. I’ve always said I feel like the gym is more important than our relationship, but now he cant even take 2 days off things to be there for me after we’ve lost our baby.

He’s saying its his way of dealing with things, his way of taking his emotions out, he doesnt want to sit at home “wallowing in sadness like me”. He’s saying I’m stopping him from doing what he wants and his feelings dont matter.

I never stop him doing what he wants, but literally mere hours after we get home from hospital he goes out to play football? He cant even take a few days to just fucking be there for me emtionally. He’s getting angry with our one year old when I’m just trying to rest so I have to keep getting up and seeing to them. He’s invited all his family round today when I dont want to see anyone, I just want time to grieve my baby. This is really tearing us apart.