I have never had an orgasm during intercourse without a vibrator on my clit. I am not even close to one even if my man fingers or licks me, and even if we’ve taken our time doing so, and even if there was a time when I had literally directed him on where to place / rub his fingers. To be honest, even if he is the one controlling the vibrator, it does not work. It ony works when I’m the one controlling the vibrator.

Is all this normal?

But even if it is normal, someday, I hope can orgasm with my man without the vibrator.

Any tips?

(FYI I use a small lipstick vibrator that I got as a give away from a bridal shower. Straight, and in my 30’s.)