Husband not ready for another yet - vent

Hey everyone, I just need to vent or advice if anyone has any. I had a pregnancy "scare" a couple days ago. Really thought I was pregnant but then ended up spotting (and still spotting 2 days later. Period was due yesterday or tomorrow according to apps).

I have a 2 year old and have baby fever SO bad. I was bummed about not being pregnant and my husband was trying to comfort me. We talked a bit and it lead to him saying he felt pressured for quite a while to have another. He does want another, just doesn't know when or wants to have more money first I guess? Every time I try talking to him about it I only get one snippet of information before he changes the subject.

Now I feel like an ass because I never wanted to pressure him into doing something he's not ready for, but at the same time I don't want my kids to be 5 years apart like my siblings are to me. I barely even know my brother who is 10 years younger than me. Plus I'm nearing 30 (which I know isn't the end of the world but still makes me nervous about fertility). I am a SAHM right now because daycare costs are insane and having another wouldn't help that. It doesn't make sense for me to go back to work and then have to quit when we have another because daycare is too expensive for two kids.

I guess I'm just at a loss for what to do or how to feel right now. I definitely get his side from what he's told me but I also feel my side too if that makes sense. Should I just drop it until he lets me know he's ready? Or wait a while to discuss it again (we've only discussed it once every few months). He's acting like nothing really happened, but my world kind of shifted since I just assumed he also wanted one sooner than later. He's an amazing father and husband (we almost never argue) and I am so incredibly blessed to have my daughter, but it feels like our family is missing someone.

If you read this far, thank you! If you have any advice for me that would be awesome, thank you!