29 and zero libido

This has been going on for years i am young and relatively active. Ive been in a relationship for 12 years and this has been the cause of many arguments. I have zero libido. I could go months and months and months without having sex. I have zero sex drive. And it is fustrating for me because i should be wanting sex. The whole act of having sex is so inconvenient to me. Iw.oudl rather do anything else than have sex. And my husband could have sex several times a day. He is fustrated and so am i. Is anyone else like this so young? What can i do? Ive tried libido vitamins, yoga everything that woman can do. I think its bullshit men can just take a pill to get horny but theyre really isnt anything for woman.