Family drama /crazy in laws

Ok so I’m gonna try to sum up about 7 years of crazy shit that’s I’ve endured since being in a relationship/married to my husband.. off the bat his dad didn’t like me. He had no reason being he never met me . His wife knew my aunt because they worked together. Fast forward we got married Covid happened and found out I was pregnant. My job made me stay home and my husband did too. We moved out our place and moved in with them .. RED FLAG 🚩 my husband left when I had our daughter and went to trucking school . Leaving me behind with a infant living with his overbearing mother and narcissistic father . Fast forward again to now my husband has been job hopping over the road and I just recently lost my job . So I took up on my hobbies and started selling plates . Anyway, his dad felt because my daughter live in his house he has a say so over me and my husband about our daughter . He began to call me out my name threatened to call the cops on me etc etc . That night I packed all my things and my daughter things and left and went back to my parents . Now here’s the thing me and my husband have not been on the best terms . So he was upset that I left but I had been telling him for years I was done living there because it’s too toxic for me . Well he decided to quit his job a few weeks ago and back living at his parents . He thinks I should allow our daughter to stay with him without me. Mind you I’ve always had our daughter . So yea I feel a little selfish . I allow her to go over there and stay all day but now he’s coming at me saying do I want her 2 weeks at a time or 1x a month . Which is even the more crazy . Tbh I feel we both don’t want to do this anymore but our daughter is what keeps us tied . He even admitted he’s being difficult with me because I’m coming up with ideas or suggestions. He feels it’s only what I think is best. If anyone’s been in a situation like this pls I would love to hear your advice . No one around me in my life is going through half of what I’m dealing with