Why do I still want this…

Question

I found out that my baby daddy has been cheating on me and idk how long for but it’s been at least a few months cause I was pregnant with my daughter and she’s only a month old. Now he’s telling me he doesn’t want to hurt me anymore and doesn’t want a relationship. I keep asking how he can throw away 8 years and 2 kids later. This really hurts so much. He told me he doesn’t love me anymore but doesn’t have feelings for this girl but yet won’t stop talking to her. I’m physically so sick. I can’t sleep, I haven’t ate anything since I found out on Friday. I love him so fucking much and this just hurts so bad. Why can’t I just be like other women and let him go. Why am I sitting here begging him asking him to stay and we can fix it. I really hate myself for this. I have that this is happening and 2 kids are now involved and it hurts so much.

Answer

This is going to be really harsh but if your begging for a man that clearly doesn’t want you it’s because you lack any self worth. Really think about it, he cheated he doesn’t actually care about you at all an he’d continue to cheat with this women cause she isn’t going anywhere despite what he says to you.

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You can let him go, he said he doesn’t love you anymore. Why would you want to stay with someone who would say that? You deserve so much better and you’re not going to find it while you’re wasting your time on this guy. It will hurt to leave now but it will save you so much pain in the long run

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I’ve been there. I know how that pain feels of wanting someone so bad even after they did horrible things. It’s going to take time but eventually you’ll learn to let go and heal. You’ll be hurting but you need to let him go for yourself and for your kids. He doesn’t love you anymore and I know it’s hard to accept but you have to. You have to move on. You will find true love someday but it’s not with this guy. Start doing things that YOU love and spend more time with your kids. Just try to distract yourself from thinking about him and eventually you’ll learn how to let go. Learn to love yourself again.

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I’ve been here too, the pain is sickening and you feel like your whole world has shattered you can’t eat or sleep and you just want everything as it was before you knew anything!
It’s basically a security blanket he is that blanket and you’ve created this little family and life over 8 years of loving someone to be told that they arnt “in” love and found something better it’s life a knife straight in the heart!!
Yes we beg and want the security blanket back but really strip this down for a second…
He basically cheated on you through your latest pregnancy with this other women why you was preoccupied being pregnant perfect distraction your end and now baby’s here he’s like yeah i definitely don’t wanna do this relationship with her and this other woman is more fun blarh blarh blarh!! 
Guess what and I’m gona be 10000% honest here they always come back wen the excitement leaves that other thing they have going on and the other women can’t handle the fact he still has to be in communication with you over the kids and always feel inferior or not knowing if he’s cheating on her with you that relationship won’t last 10000% and then they want back you that’s been consistent in his life for 8 years that has his children and then all of a sudden want to work out the relationship again! And get back what they chucked away for abit of excitement!
Buy that stage I hope you have every little bit of will power to shut the door in his face!!
Don’t beg him, watch it all unfold and I guarantee what I just said happens!!
You now need to drop communication about the relationship he’s just abandoned between you both and keep it strictly about the kids only, become cold towards him, keep being the fab mother to those kids work on yourself and your self esteem show yourself your strong and can cope without him and you one day will start to see and believe u you our worth more then what he’s being offering you!
Yes you love him and want back what’s familiar in your life but never settle for convenience. 
Ask yourself why he decided to cheat and what possibly made him seek another woman’s attention there’s always a reason as to why people cheat and maybe it’s nothing to do with you or what you had y to I offered the relationship and maybe it’s down to him and lack of what he was offering to the relationship, people naturally out grown one another even if it is one sided and you can’t make someone love you even if you love them.
Lean on family and friends right now to help you get through this and ask yourself was you truly happy together and in love or loved him just because?

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Sorry your hurting this is only the beginning of your grieving you can’t make him want you do you have any one close that you can turn to to talk to during this time this app and some of the women on here want give you the support your needing the love to tell people in pain how they don’t know they self worth and all this other bull shit. If you have insurance you can ask for therapy resources you are gonna be so grief stricken it’s gonna take a toll on you like. No other start trying to focus on you and the babies praying for you for peace and closure .

Why do I still want this…

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