Would you be annoyed?

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It seems like every day or every other day my husband is inviting his brothers and cousins to our house to eat and they literally come here at 6 pm and leave at 12 am, sometimes later. I always get *informed* that they are coming over and it makes me so annoyed. I’m not a people person as it is AND I’m 35 weeks pregnant.

I just got informed yesterday that my husband invited everyone to our house the 4th of July to have a party. I am livid! I do not feel like trying to get the house cleaned and together and hosting a party.

Last time I brought up ‘it would be nice if you asked me first’ he said, “well it’s my house too!” Yeah, I get it wanting them over sometimes but almost every day AND they don’t clean up after themselves! It’s a bit much.

I even suggest we have it at some one else’s house and he said no. I’ve been having on/off Braxton hicks and I don’t have time for this…

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I would just say "That's lovely! I'm too tired so I'll stay at a hotel overnight. Have fun!"
And leave him to it.
And when you're past that the two of you seriously need to have a conversation about how this is YOUR house as well and you ALSO have a day in who comes and when. You're supposed to be a team. Respect each other and your differences and work to find a compromise so you can both be happy. 
Out of curiosity, is this new behavior or has he always been like this?

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This would be my idea of hell.. every now and again with warning is okay but he clearly doesn't care about ur feelings.. if it was me.. i'd pop my head out to say hello.. stay for a while and then excuse urself upstairs.. u need to rest.

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He doesn't respect you. He can do the hosting and all the clean up himself

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You may have posted about this before. Obviously he’s being rude. Don’t clean the house or do anything. Just go to your room and get some sleep. If he wants to throw get togethers every night, he can deal with it.

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While I'm a people person, my husband is not. We always ask each other about plans in the house and while I would have people daily I would never do that to him. Just for respect and because we are a team and we communicate.

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My bf was like this and I moved out because of it. He was constantly inviting friends over late in the day and they wouldn’t leave until sometimes 2-3am. I’m not a people person either and he would never tell me anyone was coming until they’re were on the way already and when I’d get upset he would say he “can’t just tell them to turn around now”. Same thing with his mom he was constantlyyy inviting his mom over who does not like me. He never cared how I felt about it and would never ask about company I got sick of it so I got my own place.

Would you be annoyed?

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