My wedding is in 9 days, but I am still not sure.

Howdy,

I know asking strangers on the internet is maybe not the wisest or most mature thing to do, but I feel so mixed up and desperate that I am hoping maybe some thoughts from strangers might help me reach an epiphany or something.

My fiancé is just about the sweetest guy ever. I’ve talked with him a lot about my various doubts and anxieties and he has been so sweet and supportive through it all. He just wants me to be happy and free, whether that means marrying him (which is what he definitely wants) or if I leave. We’ve been dating roughly for three years, with a couple of breaks here and there, all instigated by me and my mental health issues.

He treats me like a princess and he is so kind and generous, but I’ve struggled our whole relationship with not really feeling “in-love” with him. I love him very much, he is my best friend, and he has made my life so much better, but I struggle to really see him romantically and sexually and mentally as my other half. I don’t look at him and think, “wow, he’s so perfect and wonderful and I would die without him because he is my soulmate”. But he does feel a lot more that way about me (not that I am perfect, but that I am everything to him. He is very aware of my faults). I am really concerned that by marrying him I am robbing him of finding someone else who will be as excited about him as he is about me.

Do y’all think it’s ok to get married if you aren’t as crazy in love with them as they are with you?