Can you relate? Is your partner sex drive low?

My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over two years. For our first year we were waiting to have sex bc we wanted to may be do things traditionally and get married first. We mutually decided to have sex and be sexual by our second year together anyway :)

We had a lot of fun exploring each other and trying new things. We had multiple experiences and planned for more in our life.

Somewhere in those first few months life for him got a little difficult and stressful. Work started to wear him out, had a hard time finding a better place to live, family issues etc. For most of the year he felt depressed and of course sex stopped pretty much completely after around 3 months. When I wanted to have sex he wouldnt get hard and he would tell me his sex drive was low. All the way up to this point sex has become a difficult topic for us.

Im 25 and hes 34. As stressed as I get I still almost always want to have sex now and or mess around. His drive has completely stopped. Yet I do understand everyone experiences stress differently.

So I want to know if anyone can relate this with their partner? Should I be worried? Does this come with his age? Could I not be attractive to him anymore (we still enjoy doing a lot of other things together and he enjoys my company and tells me he loves and appreciates me).

Could therapy help him ease his stress? Is my drive just higher than his and Im just asking for too much? Or is it completely normal for humans and I should just give him some time?

I have communicated with him but he doesn’t like to talk for long and all he says is his drive is low, but I want to know if theres more to it and help him more/understand better. Or at least by this post know that I can give him time with ease that everything will be okay for him and for us.

This is one of my first, most

serious and longest relationships so Im learning all the time about the male body, how to navigate and balance my life with my partner in healthy ways, and how to understand my partner and his emotions/experiences and thoughts.

I want to be as patient as possible with him so Ill wait however long. I just want to know where to take this situation so that he’s comfortable with this topic again and comfortable with me.

Sex isn’t absolutely everything for us in this relationship. We’ve built the most loving foundation for ourselves that we could and everything else for us is wonderful as far as kindness, respect, goals, joy, care, openness, faith, and even fighting through hard times(which are inevitable). Obviously we are gonna have our first times and we are experiencing all kinds of new things together and not everything will go our way.

So how do we get through this one?

My hope is to have sex again of course and to have a healthy relationship with sex, we were just getting started :’/

Let me know what you think.