I have rheumatoid arthritis supposedly😞

I am 28 goinf to be 29. I have 2 babies 1 years old and 2 almost 3 years old. I believe they gave it to me during their pregnancies because i was totally fine before kids didnt have anything til😞 after my oldest son 2 years old. I started having symptoms like my wrists hurting, my foot and legs… then now after my daughter it got bad last year i felt even sicker with fever, body aches all over my body not just my wrists but everywhere i feel achey…💔😞i also believe that my weight has tp do with it to i gained alot of weight.. i am 170 pounds before pregnancies i was 130-135💔please help what are some things u heard that works good with arthritis? I am taking just plaquenil.. but it doesnt work because i just take 1…my mom said because she has lupus! She said to buy probiotics too to basically clean out my gut to help lose weight losimg weight is the #1. Thing i can do right now and eating clean… 💔im just so sad i have this .. i am young still im hurting everywhere every day i feel like😞

Anyone dealing with this or have anything i can buy to help and treat this arthritis? Please i am desperate and thank u….