Should I cut my s.o off if his family is hateful & non supportive?

Question

My last relationship my kids father had a entire family of people who were hateful, envious gossiped and talked about me and never did anything for my kids as far as the grandmother… 
They were non-supportive and non-dependable the majority of the relationship I had to depend on my parents. 
I am in a situation again with a man I am with now been together 4 yrs & his grandmother is very hateful as well as his only sister who even asked me who was the father of my child when I was pregnant and coming to see him one weekend. 
his aunt which is the next closest and Ken bc his mom is dead has taken him to sleep around with multiple females & has had many females in her car (in the PAST) granted it’s not her fault it was his on his behalf and she may be the nicest out of the bunch but not to be trusted either… 
I go into labor in three days and I need someone to watch the kids because I’m getting my house renovated and nobody can be here for at least 12 hours… 
His grandma refuses to let my kids stay there but when he is not here he is over there so in my opinion I feel if he can stay there & my kids can’t he doesn’t need to be here at all. 
He said that he can get a hotel room for the kids and that’s the best he can do but I feel offended.
I’m not trying to be extra but he has kids by another woman and in the past, his grandmother let them move in with no issue so what is the favoritism with me just for one day for a few hours? 
She also has never gotten anything for our son and doesn’t speak even after you family reunions he has invited me to. 
She is very jealous in my opinion as well as his sister who has talked about me multiple times then fake smiles in my face. 
She had asked me when I was pregnant with his first son who was the kid‘s father and that was very rude and disrespectful and then said if she is his aunt that she would like to be in his life etc. 
but Why would you even ask that question or make those type of comments as long as I have been with your brother?
I honestly Feel some type of way and don’t know if I’m being contradicting but wondering if anyone has ever experienced this or understands what I’m trying to get out. 
I just don’t think he is the right partner for me if I have to deal with all this again as far as a dysfunctional family in round two of it… 
I’m trying to figure out where my kids are going to go because nobody can be in my house for a certain amount of hours and I’m thinking the hotel will be the best bet but I I don’t think it’s right having to tote all my kids around like that especially my one year-old & 4 yr old plus he doesn’t drive so he will have to get transportation and I just feel like it’s a lot
I feel offended and want to cut all ties with him

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Hey! Im sorry you're going through this especially at this time when you're about to give birth.. I definitely understand how stressed you are feeling. Honestly dont make any permanent decisions right now, wait until you give birth and you arent under so much stress or hormonal.. Regarding your question, it all depends on the man himself.. if he is good to you and stands up for you... then his family doesnt matter, but if he isnt on your side and doesn't set boundaries/limits with his family then that's an issue.. You know him best and its your choice.. I hope everything works out for the best and you have a safe delivery and healthy baby in your arms.. Try to breath and just take care of yourself for now. Good luck!!

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I think because time is so short right now just accept the hotel room and then deal with it. You don’t want to be stressing yourself out right now. There is nothing you can do but hope that one days your partners family will come around. Some times it just takes time. And sometimes people are just not meant to you. Just focus on what ever is going to work right now so your kids have somewhere to be and so you can just have your baby without having to stress yourself out over something you can’t control. Just leave it babe. Unfortunately if people are the biggest fan of mum even if the kids are biological they won’t really care for them much. Not in all case… but in some

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I would cut ties with all of them and even him 🤷🏾‍♀️. I wouldn’t kiss nun of their a*s just to be liked by any of them.

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This one is hard to answer for me. We’re only hearing your part of the story and missing the full picture. Maybe the sister is asking that because maybe they suspect you might me sleeping around. Maybe is your actions, your bluntness, your tone when you speak, and the way you come off that they didn’t like you from the start. The children are trapped in this nonsense. I say just take the hotel option for now. Like you said it’s only a few hours I don’t see the problem. If the grandma doesn’t like you she doesn’t like you, no one is obligated to take care of your kids. Maybe your bf has been saying some things about you to his family. I’ve been that sister concerned for my brother about his gf. She turned out to be hoeing around behind my brothers back, getting our families hopes up of her being pregnant by my brother all to have an abortion last minute. Mind you she already had a baby from someone else and my mom took her in and helped babysit. She lied about many things just because she didn’t want my mom and I to kick her out the house. And was doing drugs the whole time. So yeah I have trust issues. So we don’t know your full story. I just know if there’s multiple people that don’t like you it must be something you’re doing wrong, so self reflect.

Should I cut my s.o off if his family is hateful & non supportive?

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