Is my husband bisexual (screenshots attached)

I needed ideas for my fiance at the times bday he had been so amazing with everything during that process I wanted to show him a great time for his day so I logged on his email and searched different things to see what he liked and came across old emails from 2013 where he was on a gay hookup app. But because the website no longer existed I couldn’t see the full messages just the previews that had been sent to his email . He was having sexual conversations with men . I quickly logged off and went out to clear my head . Ofc I ran out the house without telling him which caused alarm so when I came back he was waiting on me and wanted to know what was wrong . I asked him if he had ever had done anything sexual with a man before he said no where Is this coming from . I told him I seen the emails. Instantly he got man and started throwing stuff around the house . I mean trashed . So bad I had to hire a clean up crew . Then he left and didn’t come back till 2 in the morning . So like 9pm-2am. He was drunk so he slept it off . Called off work the next day then told me everything. He was mad because that was something he wanted to take to the grave , he didn’t want me to think he was gay or lose me/ call off the wedding , at the time he said he was about a freshman in high school and was messaging them to get money because “gay men would pay to link with men”. Never once met up with them . (I ofc couldn’t verify that because I didn’t see all messages ) so I believed him . He apologized told me there was nomore secrets & we moved on . We got married .

Then end of June there was a mix up with our new apartment move in date so we slept in the car for about 2 weeks . June 28-July 9th moved in on the 10th. A couple days into us moving in I was unboxing a couple things seen my husbands phone light up it was a notification from Snapchat (to my knowledge he didn’t have a Snapchat) so I asked him about it and he grabbed his phone off the counter and put it in his pocket then said he made the account for our memories as husband and wife apologized saying he didn’t know he had to tell me in which he didn’t . But We have been married 10 months and I didn’t know he had it . So I’m like let me see these memories . He said no . I’m like huh??? So we argue and he eventually gave me the phone and locked himself in the bedroom .

A man had sent him his address at 2:30 in the morning . That was the only thing in the chat .

He told me that the man sent out his address to random people trying to get them to come to his bday that he never seen the man & even called the man and said “have u seen me in person” the man said “keep me out your drama “ and hung up . because it was one of the days we were sleeping in the car I believed him cuz we spent every min of the day together during that time . But I felt bad that my husband called him like that so i dm him and said I’m his wife sorry he called you like that and to be careful randomly sending people his address . And this is part of what he sent me back :

I told my husband what he said and he was like why did I message him and I said to apologize for the call. I said what about what he’s accusing you of and he said just ask him what I look like I bet he can’t tell you . And this is what he said :

After that he told me the man is lying but CHANGED HIS STORY to he added a bunch of people on quick add and when he posted a video the man commented on it saying he was cute and he didn’t look at the profile to see it was a man and they started talking . Later CHANGED AGAIN to he found out it was a man then agreed to come over so the man could send gas money because we were sleeping in the car running the AC all day . I believed him because a year prior he told me how he messaged them as a teen to get money right ..

During all this I’m like

How did my husband know to ask what he looked like if he supposedly posted a video of himself the guy would know ????

2 days of me messaging this man trying to put pieces together my husband never once messaged this man or got mad that he was “lying on him” till I said something then he finally messaged the man saying this :

**foul language **

(Not all messages included)

So during this time I asked to see his phone and went to the App Store to see if he ever download it any of the apps mentioned neither one was ever downloaded. So I went to safari and typed both in . He didn’t have Grindr but skout popped up in his history . I instantly broke down crying . He tried to tell me it was old and his friends had him download several dating apps and talk to women before giving it all up for marriage . He said he made a random email and random account didn’t know the log in and even then he didn’t talk to any men . . I couldn’t believe my husband anymore & The man was starting to sound believable. The only thing keeping me from fully believing other than denial was his story about the lights being cut off and didn’t see the car like how do you meet someone off the internet and not check to see if he’s a catfish .

Eventually I stopped message the man . Let the situation go . My husband ended up telling me the real reason he trashed the house was because he initially messaged men as a teen because he was curious how people knew they were gay because his mom would tell him he hangs with his guy friends too much and never brings girls to the house . So he messaged men but when he found out they were willing to send money for links that’s what it became and he would take their money never show up then block them. Realizing he loved women and wasn’t gay . He says he swears that the truth about that previous situation .

Even admitted about the man he messaged recently HIS OFFICIAL STORY WAS : never met the man on skout they met on snap . He sexted the man sent pictures off google not real pictures for gas money . Says he stood the guy up and the guy cussed him out mad he didn’t show up and threatened to expose him as being dl. I said how would he know you’re dl and not gay and he’s like cuz he “looks straight in his pictures” not like the other guy who is clearly gay . He says the man is just mad he didn’t show so he’s lying on him .

So I let it go right . Till A couple days ago my husband said something that stood out to me he said his favorite thing is to drive around at night when he can’t sleep so I asked him if he ever drove around while we slept in the car and he started shaking his leg (his nervous tick) and said yea sometimes why and I said oh I must sleep hard then and he’s like yea you sleep so hard someone could break in you wouldn’t hear it .

SO NOW IM LIKE 🚩:

1-could he have gone to the man’s house while I was sleep ??

2- my husband likes head more than sex it’s crazy the man knew to say he only gave him head. If he was “lying” why not make it as bad as possible and also say they did anal raw . You know ?

3- my husband knew to ask the man what he looked like like he knew he wouldn’t be able to identify him

4- the app mentioned was on his internet searches

So do y’all think he’s bisexual (seen the man) or is he using them for gas money ? (Also he has 3 kids)