Feeling stuck

When I met my husband, I fell quickly in love. He made me feel like the most beautiful, special person on earth. He made me feel seen, respected, and heard.

Once we had kids, the spark in our relationship faded. He’s an amazing and supportive husband and father… I have no complaints about the person he is. It’s just that our relationship seems to have flatlined. He works 60+ hours in a week, and I’m overstimulated and exhausted from taking care of our two littles alone most of the time. We don’t have the time or childcare for frequent date nights (he’s a chef so he works nights too). It just seems like we are partners when it comes to maintaining our life and raising our children, and anything else has disappeared.

It’s really sad. Often I wonder if it’s just the exhaustion from this stage of our life getting in the way, or if it’s actually our love for each other changing. Sometimes I feel resentment towards our kids… not that I don’t love them or wish I didn’t have them….just wonder if we should have waited to have them so my husband and I had more time alone together (I’m only 29 and he’s 34..our oldest is 4). I hate when I have those thoughts.

I miss him. I miss the way he used to make me feel. I miss our time together.

I’m wondering if anyone else has been through this, and if it got better. Please throw any suggestions my way! I want to reignite that spark, and get some of our youth back.