Beyond done with my husbands selfishness

Background, we have four kids. Two sets of twins. Second set were conceived after he had a vasectomy that he told me he got checked and didn’t but that’s another story.

Our younger set of twins are autistic. Each one has very different needs but they do hours of therapy a week that I take them back and forth to. One of our twins has a lot of meltdowns and barely sleeps. He sleeps in three hour increments and wakes up up screaming multiple times a night. His sleeping has been very bad for the last three or so weeks and because I have three other kids I’ve only been averaging about three hours of sleep a night. I’m surviving off of iced coffee.

My husband is the bread winner and I had to become a SAHM because of how much therapy our twins are in. He’s notoriously selfish and it’s been an issue in our marriage for a while and it’s come up in marriage therapy in the past and he always says he’ll work on it.

Today is Saturday and because of how little I’ve been sleeping I thought maybe I could sleep in this morning and he could take the kids to the park or something to give me an extra hour or two. He agreed last night. He didn’t wake up until 4pm today. FOUR PM. I called my mom crying this morning (she lives on the other side of the country and is my only family outside of my husband and kids) and she just told me to let him sleep but start getting my ducks in a row to leave because his selfish behavior is so beyond at this point. He gets up at 4 and DOESNT APOLIGIZE, plays on his phone for 30 minutes barely acknowledges me or the kids and then gets in the shower and does self care until almost 530! He then takes the kids to the park and I use this time to shower because he’s back less than an hour later. Our sweet boy who has a hard time sleeping is still awake and it’s now 1am. Guess where my husband is? In bed since 10pm after he ate the dinner I made and didn’t even bother to pick up the living room or take out the trash not to mind not helping at all with the bedtime routine. So I’m leaving. On Monday I’m calling movers and a lawyer and I’m getting the eff out of here. My mom is going to fly in to help me. It would be easier to do it all alone at this point. Im just so upset and worked up that I had to vent somewhere but I got this 💪🏻