Am I wrong

My bf plays sports overseas. He’s been doing it since before our son was born. He’s 3 now. He will come home a couple months then leave for 5 months. This last offer he took he didn’t discuss with me till after he accepted it and booked a flight. I told him don’t do that again that he needs to discuss it with me. He’s coming home next week and had accepted an offer behind my back again and was fixing to not come home for another 5 months and didn’t tell me. Only reason he told me was cause they changed their minds on him and didn’t want him anymore.

We’ve been together 4 years and I still don’t have a ring on my finger. I feel like I’m dealing with wife shit and I don’t even have a ring. It’s multiple things.

Am I wrong for breaking up with him? Do I need to talk it out or would y’all do the same?