My best friend/roommate just checked herself into a mental hospital..

She left with no warning while I was asleep. I think she’s doing it to have an excuse for not getting a job, which I will get into below. I feel bad but I also think she’s being a bit ridiculous.

Back in July her lease was up and she couldn’t find a place she could afford to stay. So I let her rent a room in my house. She had a good job, then they lost an employee and stuck all the extra work on her, she got sick of it and quit in the beginning of September. She has been doing some side jobs here and there and managed to make enough to pay me October rent. She’s been searching for a job the whole time but she’s being extremely picky about where she applies and is also being a bit careless and often missing interviews. I keep encouraging her to take a job she doesn’t necessarily want so that she can make money while continuing to search for something she likes. She refuses. She’s only applying to restaurants as a prep cook or dishwasher and landscaping/gardening jobs. She refuses to work as a waitress, or in fast food, cashier, department stores, gas stations, manufacturing, nothing else. So I’m not that surprised she hasn’t found a job yet. She is a licensed esthetician and used to wax but she refuses to now because she thinks it creates too much waste.

She has no money left to pay bills or rent. She’s eating my groceries without asking. I’ve recently had to go gluten free and she’s eating all of my expensive gluten free alternatives too, even if the regular gluten filled thing is there too. Which leaves me really limited on what I can eat. I told her she’s going to have to take a job she doesn’t like for awhile. She ignored me. The next day she didn’t talk to me the entire day, then the day after is today, when she left.

I understand that she’s going through a hard time but she’s making it a lot harder on herself than it needs to be. I just don’t know how to act. How am I supposed to act when she comes back home? Is she just going to do the same thing being really picky, eating my food and not paying rent? I’m ok with helping her out for a little bit, I charge her much less than what I should for rent already. But I don’t want to be taken advantage of when she definitely could’ve had a job by now.