Relationship advice

I’ve been struggling with these emotions about my relationship. Whether to keep trying or just move on. My boyfriend and I have been together for over 3 years now, we met during the pandemic. There are a couple issues I have and have mentioned to him multiple times. Issue 1, he does not have a car nor a license and when I’ve brought up that it adds to my stress (picking him up constantly, driving to and from point a to b, etc) he gets defensive or excuses why he doesn’t have said license. Issue 2, he has done the BARE MINIMUM, and by that I mean, we maybe go out of the house once a week for a “date” that feels forced and it’s like pulling teeth to have him doing anything that doesn’t involve staying home and doing absolutely nothing. When I’ve stated he does the bare minimum he gets to extremely mad and states “he hates when I say that”

because apparently not cheating, being respectful, and not being crappy like my last exes, will be more than enough for me. Well sadly it isn’t, and feels as if he is fine giving me the bare minimum of what a human SHOULD receive. Issue 3, my love language is when I’m reassured/shown I’m loved, not just by words. I truly want actions. Now I’m not saying I need $ spent on me and lavishly expensive dates. I would love to just have some spontaneity in this relationship. I wish he would randomly ask to go to the park on a picnic date. Maybe some $5 flowers when he misses/ thinks of me, etc. it saddens me because I thought he would see me as someone who he’d want to show his “love” to. Rather than giving me false hope of growing together. I’m so torn and when I bring these issues up they’re always excused or he deflects and I’m at a point of running out of options. I just want a mutual relationship where I feel appreciated sometimes🥺