Does it mean I shouldn’t be a mom?

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I feel like I really want a baby. I get sad seeing everyone else have one and not me. I’ve had 2 miscarriages. I was really happy when I found out I was pregnant and heartbroken when I lost them. But there are things I don’t want to give up. I really like to sleep. I’m pretty lazy so I sleep often when I’m not working. I do work a pretty tiring job though as a caregiver for disabled children. It wipes me out a lot. I’ve also realized I don’t have amazing patience. I get irritated at work pretty quick. I also really like to game. I spend hours playing my xbox, and couldn’t do that as a parent. I really want to see my parents as grandparents though. I’m kinda running out of time to have a baby though. I’m almost 30 and don’t want to have a baby much past that. Should I just not have a baby? I feel like I’d be a pretty bad mom.

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Realistically, once you become a parent, you naturally don’t sleep as much, game as much, etc. So just because you do those things now doesn’t mean you will continue to be the same way if and when you become a parent. So no, the fact you like to sleep and game doesn’t necessarily mean you’d be a bad mom.

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Nothing grows you up faster than becoming a mom.. in the best way imaginable. I LOVE sleep but I’ve got 4 kids and 1 on the way and honestly i don’t miss it much. When you have a kid, your brain just changes. Your priorities change and your desires change. It is the most wonderful, challenging and rewarding thing you will ever do. I promise, you’ll never regret having a child, it really grows you as a person.

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I chose to wait until I was 30 to have a baby because I was admittedly selfish and wanted to do things for me. I have a 4 & 6 year old who are everything to me but I’m not ashamed to admit that it’s hard and I do need time out for myself. I don’t have much best patience or do well with lack of sleep but when you have kids it just becomes your new normal and you learn and adjust. I don’t ever look back and wish I had my life before kids. I actually look back and can’t imagine not having them.
The fact that you’re even worrying about it shows to me that you’d be a wonderful Mum ✨

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30 isn’t “running out of time”. Yikes. 
When you become a parent, you’ll adjust your life accordingly. It’s ok to do all those things right now - you’re young, and don’t have the responsibility of a child. 
Sorry about your miscarriages. Those suck. But it doesn’t mean you won’t go on to have kids, and be a great parent.

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If you value your personal time and space then don't have kids. It's ok!

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I would encourage you to not put such a strict time limit on it. Not being perfectly within your timeline is OK. 
￼You will sacrifice in those areas when you become a mom. Some people have a hard time with this and for others it comes very easily. The most important thing is having a good support system that can allow you to still have some time to do all the things you love to do so you can still feel like you. ￼Without that, it could be difficult for you, especially if you already know these things will be difficult for you to reduce your time spent on them￼. ￼For me, the whole sleep thing was pretty difficult in the beginning. But I did get used to it and eventually it got better (as in baby won't always be an infant waking up all night or a toddler waking up at 5 AM. My daughter gets up at 7 AM every day, but she's a little older now, so she can hang out on her own while I snooze a little extra) ￼and I got better at doing it. I think just age has made me better at waking up early. I had my daughter at age 36. ￼My daughter is nine years old now. A lot goes into parenting and it's exhausting. The only thing I would change if I could is making sure I had a better support system. ￼

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Whoever said you would be a bad mom is an asshole

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Just because you’re a gamer doesn’t mean you would be a bad mom. While it’s true you won’t be able to game for hours on end, you can still find time to play. 
I play a couple days a week after my kids are in bed, and while I was home on maternity leave, I’d play my Switch while my son contacted napped.

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None of that means you would be a bad mom but when you have a kid you definitely have to sacrifice some things like sleeping in and playing video games but it’s not something you have to give up completely. sleep is hard when they’re really young but eventually they sleep through the night. I play games on my Xbox or whatever hobby when my kid is asleep. It just depends if you’re willing to make those sacrifices when or if you choose to have a kid

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I love sleeping and gaming too!!! I’m a mom of 3 but the less sleep doesn’t bother me anymore, I’m kinda use to it and it gets easier to run 0 sleep, tired but can still function, gaming my children also love gaming so we game together, but doesn’t mean I can play with full attention always. But most of the time we do our own thing and take it in turns. You wouldn’t be a bad mom just because their things you love doesn’t mean you can’t be a mom or need to give it up.

Does it mean I shouldn’t be a mom?

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