I’m currently 18 weeks pregnant, have a 3 year old and 37 year old — ahem, I mean husband. Let me just say I try to make a point a be sympathetic when my husband is sick but the struggle is real.

Last Thursday I got a bad UTI. Took until Friday to get meds for it (it’s a story). Then early Monday I came down with the stomach flu. Vomiting nonstop for over 12 hours and running to the bathroom. Nothing leaving my body was solid. I couldn’t even keep liquids down. I’d just throw them up. So while doing a virtual doctor visit I almost passed out on the call. The doctor told me to leave right then and head to the ER. Turns out I had a really nasty UTI the antibiotics weren’t helping with (blood, protein, WBC in urine sample) and the stomach flu all at once. I was on orders to stay in bed Monday, then Tuesday is wasn’t throwing up but I was beyond drained. My husband works from home and sets his hours because he’s a manager. He watched our 3 year old.

Wednesday I said I was feeling a bit better and BOOM my husband is like “great you don’t need to be in bed”. So Wednesday I got out of bed and cleaned up the house as it was a wreck from from just those two days. Thursday night right before bed my husband announces “my turn to be sick!” He had two… TWO instances of running to the bathroom. No vomiting at all. He took off work yesterday. Told his boss he just couldn’t work. Also, our 3 year old woke up early Friday morning at 3 AM and projectile vomited EVERYWHERE. Her bed, her floor, the bathroom floor, all over her and on me. I cleaned her up and everything else. He sat in a chair with her and groaned on and off.

Today he says he pretty much back to normal but mild stomach cramps. He’s been in bed all day. I haven’t slept in over a week and I’m exhausted. To the point that my patience is so thin but I’m still going through the motions. He didn’t take off work when I was literally fighting TWO infections off but he poops twice and needs the day off work.

I’m sure I’m not explaining this well but I’m just overwhelmed and mad.