Mom in your business

Would you feel some type of way if your mom asks you if you paid the rent for the month? I feel like i asked my mom one time to help me and my husband with rent and that’s all she ever ask every month. Plus she seen a late notice for rent on our door put it got paid the next day. Tbh it annoys me because i feel like she doesn’t respect our marriage. Everytime she comes over she always looking in our fridge to see what we have…his parents don’t do that. Yeah she’ll look and toss us something every now and then if we don’t have nothing but i feel like she looking just to look not because she’s hungry. Does your mom look in yall fridge when she comes over??! Idk maybe I’m overthinking. She’s always giving me unsolicited advice. I hate to sound rude but I just don’t feel like she respects us.