Need to vent

I work just as much as my bf/bd does. But I tend to be the one doing all the housework. I ask him to do a couple things every now and then around the house and he will promise me he will. And just doesn’t. I’ve asked him nicely 2 or three times and he would promise and then I’d come home to a dirty house.

So I got frustrated and talked to him about it a bit more aggressively. He got more mad about the fact I talked to him “crazy” and didn’t even try to understand me. Now he’s “punishing me” by not coming home.

Another thing a little more tmi.

I’m prone to UTIs. I’ve told him multiple times don’t spit on his thing before having sex cause of it. Which he did a few times after I told him not to and I always got a uti. I got onto him over and over. Then he recently did it again and I got the worst uti of my life today. He doesn’t listen. I’m with a child.