Unsupportive partner… 1st baby, help?

Hey all.. first post here.. first pregnancy and I’m super scared as I have an autoimmune disorder which makes me high risk 😬

Over the weekend I had a lot of pain and wasn’t able to keep much down which led to me being super weak. I called my partner to ask for support (he doesn’t live with me atm) and he was unwilling to leave his friends house to help me and instead said ‘if it’s that bad call an ambulance, I’m busy’.

As the night went on I got worse and had a high temperature so called for help and an ambulance was being sent out however the doctor wanted me to reach my partner as he should be there with me & would be quicker if he could take me. I had to contact his friend to relay this msg to which my partner asked me if I was ‘actually’ going to the hospital… he then said he would come and take me only for him to then take 45mins more to leave his friends 10mins away. The doctor actually called me back to ask if I needed an ambulance as I hadn’t booked into the hospital yet and she was concerned.

The whole night he was dismissive and annoyed that I had ‘ruined his fun’ and when discussing this the next day he saw nothing wrong with his behaviour and said I shouldn’t rely on him 24/7 and that apparently we went to the hospital for me and not the baby…? (This was the ONLY time in 6weeks that I have asked him for anything).

I’m not sure what to do and everything is new but I need support.. who do I talk to about this? He’s wanted a baby for years so his attitude has shocked me. I reached out to his mum (a midwife!!) who sees nothing wrong with his behaviour and also ignored my calls the ONE time I needed support. Help please??