Husband going out of his way to search

My husband has a porn problem… seriously an addiction and it’s affecting everything in our intimate life. Or what’s literally non existent. It didn’t start out this way in the beginning- so it’s not always been a problem. I’ve tried everything to get him away from OF, from porn… from talking to him about how it makes me feel down to wearing lingerie and trying to be spicy like whatever the eff he watches. Nothing helps. I’ve even asked for marriage counseling- he refused.

Tonight I see that he’s once again found someone he loves off of TikTok who promotes OF apparently and he’s searching anything and everything including on OF that he can watch of her porn wise. I’ve initiated sexual stuff multiple times and he rejects me every time.. I’m at my wits end. And what’s crazy is that these girls have big boobs.. I have big boobs. I’m just not blonde and fit. I’m brunette, chunky and pregnant. (Gods blessing and by his grace only) I’ve never felt so unwanted in a relationship in my life. I still have flings & exes that will occasionally message me to see if I’m single so we can doodle - obvi I’m not and ignore them. So I don’t get it.. his sex drive is incredibly high.. it just doesn’t seem to be for me. I don’t know what else to do and it makes me feel so shitty. And I know some peoples “acts of love” is service and not sex but he’s not that way in either way. And like I said, at the beginning we were having sex like crazy. The only change is that I’ve gained about 40 pounds. What do I do 🥺 I can’t take it much more.