Normal for alot of husbands to midly pull their child's hair when mad at them? My husband has gotten into a habit of "pulling" our 2 1/2 year old son's hair when he keeps throwing tantrums. He tells me he didnt pull his hair hard, he just does not have alot of patience. Our son doesn't even talk yet. One time he also hit him really hard on the back when our son didn't have a shirt on and he hit him several timez, our son even screamed so loud and then cried. Afterwards he left marks on his back. I personally feel my husband is getting abusive. I even said to him that if he hits me one day, I would leave him and he jokingly hit me 2 times and said me to leave him