So backstory my partner moved from his hometown to where I live. We met, fell in love and had a baby. We've been together 17 years. I've always been very honest with him that I want to stay living here. I am very much a homebody. Now that we have baby number four my mother in law keeps asking us to move to their hometown. The town is lovely but has barely nothing there, it has a food shop, doctors, a few cafes and gift shops and a bank. There's no hospital, no shops that sell clothes/shoes apart from charity shops and practically nothing for kids to do, they very recently got a crazy golf and that's about it. you need to travel into the next town for a lot of things and neither of us drive. Where we live now there is a ton of stuff for ranging from baby groups to skate parks and things for our teenager to do. Our kids are settled at school, have friends here. My side of the family live here. Also my partner's hometown has very little jobs so we would most likely have to get a train to work everyday. Now every time we talk this through we agree that we should stay where we are, then my mother in law will send my partner a link to a house there and we go through the motions again. it's starting to cause problems in our relationship