Dating as a single mom is already hard enough now a days.

Men automatically view you with less value without even knowing how you became a single mom.

I got pregnant at 16. My childs father selfish plan was to get me pregnant so I would stay in a relationship with him. He confessed that he purposely got me pregnant because he feared that I would leave him. He helps but 80% of the responsibilities are on me.

At 16 I couldn’t get an abortion without my parents consent which they did not give me because of their beliefs. So all in all, I was forced into motherhood without it being my first choice.

Now my child is 10 and I’ve done everything I could to avoid pregnancy since I never wanted kids in the first place. I tell everyone I’ve dated I do not want more kids & will never plan to have another kid. Of course if God sends me a baby I would debate on keeping it but thankfully I been really good at protecting myself, no pregnancy scares or anything.

I broke up with my childs dad at 19 & didnt have a problem dating. Then I got into a commited relationship for 5 years so I didn’t have to worry about dating, & my ex did not want his kids of his own so it worked for us. But now I’m dating again and everything is so different:

Being that I’m older now, I’m obviously dating older men and every men that I’ve attracted do not have kids. Some don’t mind that I have a child, some do. My problem is that I stand on not having more kids, and some of these guys do want kids. They’ll stick around with hopes that I would change my mind, but I know I won’t. Some might view it as selfish but I’m not forcing these men to stick around and find out, I’m always very upfront about it. It is getting harder for to find someone to commit to as these men eventually want to have their own children. I think I might just be single because I don’t ever see myself purposely having another kid. I try to keep in mind that I’m still only in my 20s & hopefully eventually someone would come around and we can agree on this.