We have a 2 month old and a two year old…

My husband is upset at basically everyone in my immediate family for not speaking to him, or in his words - for ignoring and neglecting him/us.

My husbands preferred line of communication has always been text messaging so anytime he wanted to share a thought with a family member he would shoot them a text. Over the years these messages have gone largely unanswered and so he blamed my family members for not building relationships with him. My husband hates the superficial “happy birthday and holidays” messages. He wants a closer deeper conversation. Now he messages them his upset and angry thoughts about how they have been neglectful in our relationships and ignore him/us all the time. He says things over text message in a negative way which makes it so that my family doesn’t want to respond to him because they feel insulted. This furthering the cycle of he messages, and they don’t respond. They do sometimes call in response but my husband doesn’t want to argue over the phone verbally. They want to visit and meet our daughters (only my mom has ever met them) but my husband doesn’t want them to come over and pretend like there are no relationship issues between them. That would be ignoring the problem even further. And he also doesn’t want them to come over and “hash it out” in our small apartment and yell in front of our little ones. My mom was going to visit next week but I’m finding myself typing out a message now, asking that she not come yet because my husband is upset with her… and that she needs to reply to his messages first to show that she cares to communicate with him. She wants to call and talk but my husband doesn’t like that a phone call can supersede all his thoughts and emotions that he shared in typed messages. Everything could go unanswered in a phone call. I don’t know what to do. I’m getting so tired of being caught in the middle. 😞